Likes and views can't define who I am
Disrupting Workplace Ageism
How can we dismantle stereotypes on ageist workplace ideas? This series features stories of professionals defying expectations and takes a hard look at what the research reveals about real-world ageism in the workplace.
Ting Ma doesn’t want to be “appropriate.” As a digital creator, she prefers to express her ideas guided by a secure sense of self and a lifetime of experiences.
“When I moved to the US from China in my 20s, I could barely understand what was being said. I wasn’t born with confidence, but I told myself: ‘I'm stronger than they see, I'm smarter than they think.’ I didn’t want to give up. I was here to search for better opportunities.
“I struggled through my 30s and my 40s, but in my 50s — it’s like I was hit by lightning! I realized what mattered: my loved ones and my self-worth. I began to appreciate myself and my abilities. I believe that I'm worthy and I'm enough.
“On my page’s bio, it says ‘This is 51!’ I want everyone to know it. I don’t believe in ‘dressing for your age.’ I know myself well enough now, so my style is all about who I am — being comfortable in my skin, loving my age, and growing from my life experiences — even if someone thinks my choices are not always ‘appropriate.’ As an older woman in fashion, I want to encourage everyone to dress for themselves by knowing who they are: What pieces complement your body? Your personality? Your character? It’s about what makes you feel good.
“As a digital creator, it’s tough sometimes to keep up with all the trends and technology. But I believe if I invest in myself and work hard, I can learn anything.
“I think the key is self-love. I don’t let algorithms or metrics make me feel bad. Likes and views can't define who I am. This is as good as it gets. And I'm a caring person, a loving person. And a kind person, above all.
“I’m looking beyond fashion content these days. I want to do something for my Chinese community. There’s so much violence happening. It’s making me angry. And it's making me think. What can I do? I'm not somebody who can sit around, just relaxing. I always want to do something. I know I have a platform, so I am thinking a lot about what’s next.”